Why People Pleasing feels Toxic (Part 1)

If there’s one thing that makes it difficult to know your unique expression in this world, it’s when you try to please others to keep them happy. I’m currently working with someone who for their very survival, found it critical to please others as she was growing up, just so that she would belong within her family. And this is

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3 Reasons Why it’s important to Feel Your Feelings

This week, I want to share with you a video that I made recently that is close to my heart. In it, I share my thoughts on why it is so vitally important that we improve our abilities in sharing and expressing our emotions.

I won’t say much more about it here because I’d prefer you to experience it for

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Listening (part 2)

Last week I shared with you the importance of listening and specifically, what listening is not. This week, I want to complete the circle by talking about ‘How to listen’.

The first thing to understand about this subject is that what we are really wanting when we share a story is for someone to receive us. To receive what is

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Listening (part 1)

During the NVC foundation trainings that I run, we learn a skill called ‘Empathic listening’. To assist this learning, I often find it useful to start with a game that aims to teach the group; what empathic listening is not.
I won’t go into all the details of the game here but I will say that while one person tells

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Owning your Needs (part 2)

I often work with clients who for some reason or another, are brought up to believe that their needs don’t matter and that it is more important to give to others. As you might remember from my post last week, this is a familiar story in my life as well.

What I didn’t share last week is a major side

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Why Your Needs Matter (part 1)

There is a set of universal needs that every human being on this planet has, whether they are aware of them or not. They are motivating every action we take. They are what makes life worthwhile, they bring richness to life. They are what help us to thrive and grow and bloom. To name just a few, they include: belonging;

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Would you like to repair the past?

I used to think that once I had said something to offend someone or spoken in a way that wasn’t connecting to that person, that there was no coming back from it; that it was the end of it to the point where it was almost like it was the end of the relationship. Or that what I had really

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Living a life that is not yours

There are many things which I love about NVC, but I was reminded of one of them in particular quite recently – of how lovely it is to just say simply and clearly exactly what I really mean.

It sounds obvious doesn’t it? Something that can only be supportive of rich and powerful communication that engenders trust.  Yet my

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Sitting in love and sorrow

I’ve been sharing a lot recently about last month’s 9 day International Intensive Training in Nonviolent Communication that was held in Bali, Indonesia. And that is simply because there was so much gained from this experience that I can’t help but want to share it with you
Today’s post is no different and if anything, it’s even more important because

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