It all started with a cup of tea

I have written before about the magic of only saying ‘yes’ to others’ requests from a place of genuine joy and giving. Here’s the post if you missed it. What I haven’t yet talked about is the importance of making those requests in the first place.

I was reminded of how important this is just the other day whilst staying

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3 Reasons Why Emotions Can be Scary

A few weeks ago I shared a video about ‘Why It’s Important to Feel Our Feelings’. This week, I’d like to follow up on that thought because for many of us, feeling into our emotions can be one of the scariest
things we ever have to do. In this new video below, my intention is to shed some light on

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Why People Pleasing feels Toxic (Part 2)

Last week I began a series of emails about why people pleasing feels toxic and shared with you the first reason why – click here if you missed it.

I received many responses of gratitude for putting words to people’s experiences and helping to make sense of what was going on for them.

Today I’d like to share what I

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Why People Pleasing feels Toxic (Part 1)

If there’s one thing that makes it difficult to know your unique expression in this world, it’s when you try to please others to keep them happy. I’m currently working with someone who for their very survival, found it critical to please others as she was growing up, just so that she would belong within her family. And this is

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3 Reasons Why it’s important to Feel Your Feelings

This week, I want to share with you a video that I made recently that is close to my heart. In it, I share my thoughts on why it is so vitally important that we improve our abilities in sharing and expressing our emotions.

I won’t say much more about it here because I’d prefer you to experience it for

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Listening (part 2)

Last week I shared with you the importance of listening and specifically, what listening is not. This week, I want to complete the circle by talking about ‘How to listen’.

The first thing to understand about this subject is that what we are really wanting when we share a story is for someone to receive us. To receive what is

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Listening (part 1)

During the NVC foundation trainings that I run, we learn a skill called ‘Empathic listening’. To assist this learning, I often find it useful to start with a game that aims to teach the group; what empathic listening is not.
I won’t go into all the details of the game here but I will say that while one person tells

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Owning your Needs (part 2)

I often work with clients who for some reason or another, are brought up to believe that their needs don’t matter and that it is more important to give to others. As you might remember from my post last week, this is a familiar story in my life as well.

What I didn’t share last week is a major side

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