April 26, 2017
The Power of Honesty

One of the things I find most important in life is honesty.  For me, it’s not just about speaking truthfully to others (although that is a big part of it), it is about being truthful with myself about the motivations of every action I take, and choosing to consciously align myself with what matters in my heart.

But it

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April 18, 2017
How to quiet your own voice of criticism

After last week’s video on turning 55, it felt right to further the exploration of self-reflection and comment on a habit that many of us engage in: self-criticism.

For most of us, the best way our parents knew to help us grow into “wonderful human beings” was to in some way criticise, shame, and punish us when we strayed from

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April 14, 2017
Getting Older, Learning and Celebrating

A week ago I turned 55 and had the opportunity to deliver an impromptu presentation to a small group. The topic I was asked to share was: “What have I learnt so far in my life, and what wisdom would I like to share with others”.

It was fun for me to reflect and celebrate, and I was surprised by

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April 6, 2017
Would you like to be Sensitive and Thriving?

I trust you are having a wonderful start to April.

I recently sat down with a dear friend, Karin Amali  who works specifically with parents and she shared with me some very practical ways we can foster our children’s (and anyone else’s for that matter!) trust in themselves.

As the mother of two children, I sometimes find myself giving

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March 29, 2017
You have enormous power

This week, I wanted to share with you a very quick video from Dr Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication.
I don’t want to say much about this video because I’d prefer you to receive its message without interference from me, however, I will say this:

Just imagine if you truely lived from what he shares here? How much

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March 24, 2017
A real life example of Nonviolent Communication

Last week I mentioned that I would share a personal story about how the techniques of Nonviolent Communication built deep connection with my son during an incident when it could’ve gone a completely different way.

The video below is a little longer than normal, but absolutely worth it if you persist to the end. As you will see, the words

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March 14, 2017
Another barrier to connection

Last week I shared a video on the importance of separating out fact from moralistic judgment when connecting with another person.  If you missed that post, click here.  This week I am talking about another everyday cause of human separation: using words that imply ‘wrongness’.

Using these words is likely to trigger defensiveness in the person we

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March 8, 2017
Are you standing in the way of your connection with another?

In all relationships, we are either experiencing connection with the other person or else, we are moving away from it.

In my trainings over the years, I have found that two of the more difficult aspects of connection are the difference between: observation (fact) and Interpretation of the Facts (judgement).

If we are in interpretation, it’s easy to hook into

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March 1, 2017
All you are becoming is already here

I love eating alive and vibrant foods, and in my home right now is a 30cm tall basil plant that I grew from a tiny seed.

Every day this basil plant shines it’s luminance and abundance and shares itself with me. I look at it for ages and it is such a source of wonder. Why?

Because…everything that is in

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February 22, 2017
The problem with someone else’s potential

I have been practicing and teaching the principles of Nonviolent Communication for fifteen years, and I still find one of the principles of NVC both challenging and undeniably profound.

It is this: If my intention is to change someone, in any way, it is an act of violence.

I have experienced this principle most directly in my own life

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