Nonviolent Communication
for Couples
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) teaches us how to connect to our partners with more vulnerability, empathy and human connection.
“NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty
within ourselves and other people”
Marshall B. Rosenberg.
As human beings, we have a deep yearning to connect, to love and be loved, to be heard, and to be understood. This is a strong foundation for any relationship, and whether married, newly committed or with a long-term partner, every experience together brings an opportunity for more love, more connection, more awareness and more growth.
This is where Nonviolent Communication (NVC) comes in.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a powerful communication framework that is taught and used by couples all over the world. When two people come together, each with their own beliefs and perceptions, it can sometimes lead to misunderstandings or conflicts, especially if there are unresolved wounds from childhood or past experiences. Overtime, this can drive couples further apart. However, when we apply NVC's incredible teachings we can truly transform our relationships.
Nonviolent Communication teaches us how to be present and really hear what each other is saying. It is an impactful tool that helps create deeper connections and deeper understanding, and when used regulary can cultivate more empathy, compassion, intimacy and emotional safety into the relationship — bringing us closer than ever.
Whether doing the work separately or together, learning Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a powerful way to help you move through any unexpressed emotions, experiences or triggers, helping you both grow stronger with every conflict or challenge.
NVC is the bridge that builds harmony, even in the most challenging relationships.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a powerful, useful and effective method to creating more happiness, harmony, connection, gratitude and empowerment in our relationships, no matter how long you've been together.
When there is a communication breakdown it can cause hurt, and disconnection. NVC's proven teachings, tools and techniques enables us to become much more self-aware as to how we are feeling moment by moment — allowing us to become much more authentic when expressing our needs and desires to our partner, and more empathetic and compassionate when hearing theirs.
4 steps to compassionate communication in
relationships using NVC
Founder and creator of NVC, Dr Marshall B. Rosenberg, created four steps that has helped couples worldwide. The following can be extremely effective when used in relationships.
1. Observation
NVC teaches us how to observe our emotions without making a judgement on ourselves or our partner. Reserving our judgements on what we are feeling (especially when we are triggered) without being reactive, allows us to move through our emotions, and that of our partners in a more graceful manner.
2. Feeling
Learning NVC allows us to take greater responsibility for our feelings. NVC explains that what our partners say and do is considered a stimuli, that may cause reactiveness due to unresolved triggers, but it is never the cause of how we feel.
3. Needs
NVC helps us take the next step by creating a connection between our feelings and our unmet needs. Needs that are common and fundamental to all relationships and our human experience. NVC shows us that rejected emotions such as anger and frustration can be seen as indicators of needs, such as acceptance and love, that are yearning to be fulfilled.
4. Requests
The final step in this process is to make requests that are specific and enrich lives for both people. These requests are positive and made in a way that enables a person to respond compassionately. An example of this would be "I would like to spend more time together" instead of "I don't want you going out with your friends all the time"
NVC is a deeper consciousness of needs. When this framework is used in relationships, it can create a greater level of understanding and compassion, resulting in more joy, appreciation and fulfillment for both you and your partner.
NVC is a great tool that can be brought in to a relationship to help couples learn how to understand each other (and themselves) on a deeper level, resulting in stronger communication and connection and greater wellbeing.
Work with Shari
Are you looking to create more joy and harmony in your relationship? Do you want to be able to really understand, communicate and connect with your partner on a much deeper level?
Shari works with both individuals and couples globally, helping them strengthen their relationships using NVC and other amazing modalities and teaching.
I have been doing this work for over 20 years, working with individuals to powerfully increase their capacity to express themselves with more authenticity, power, empathy, and compassion. The transformations I witness are truly remarkable, with clients gaining a deeper insight into what is really going on, what they care about, and from there, become better leaders, managers, colleagues, parents, partners and lovers.
- Shari
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Join our Programs and Trainings
Have you learnt NVC and want to live it more fully in your life . . . or perhaps you're just beginning to explore Nonviolent Communication and would like more support on this path.
Whether it's our 2-Day Foundation Training (perfect for beginners), or our signature 6 Month Peer Leadership Program designed to help you embody and integrate NVC more deeply into your lives, our programs and trainings have been specifically created to nourish and guide you on your NVC journey.
2-Day Foundation Training
Our 2 Day NVC Foundation Training is the starting place to learn the basics of Nonviolent Communication. Whether attending In-Person or Online, each session will help you learn how to meet conflict confidently and create strong and empowering connection in your relationships, home life, workplace, as well as connect you to a like-minded community.
Weekly Practice Group
The Weekly Practice Group is a beautifully connected environment where we gather together to learn, share, and practice the wisdom of Nonviolent Communication. This practice is for those who have attended the equivalent of a 2 Day NVC Foundation Training or beyond, and is a weekly group with highly experienced trainers, and structured support.
6 Month Peer Leadership Program
Step into your authentic leadership. The Peer Leadership Program takes your NVC skills to the next level. The 6-month leadership and mentorship program is specifically designed to nurture, accelerate and deepen the integration of NVC principles and practices into your life. It’s transformational power is achieved by group mentoring, focus and intention.
4-Day NVC Living Retreat
Being Me-Loving You 4 Day (non-residential) Retreat. During this four day retreat, you will be in a community of unconditonal love, support and non-judgment. We'll get to connect deeply with our bodies and deeply learning powerful NVC skills whilst receiving nurturing and gently releasing patterns, which unbeknown to us, we may have held onto for years!